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As I prepare for the big 3-0

Posted by: Marie Denee July 7, 2011

 

Pardon me as I write today sharing with you what has been on my mind the last couple of days…

In 2 months and two days, I turn 30. The big 3-0.

Turning 30

All kinds of things race through my head as I approach this monumental age!

They say the 30’s as a woman is the best times of her life, while in your 20’s you were learning who you are, the 30’s are a time where you revel in self realization- more confident, secure, and basically- you have arrived.

I am excited to turn 30. Nervous to turn 30. Anxious to turn 30!

When I was like 20, I remember I had a whole life plan mapped out: where I should been, kids I would have, but then life happened and took me on a course I never would have imagined! AND I am grateful!

Five years ago- at 25, I naively thought I knew myself… I was ambitious in a executive retail track. Graduated with my bachelors degree, relocated up to the bay area, I was shooting to the top- or so I thought. Then the unforeseen happened- I Lost my job. The job that brought me to the bay, without any family and a broken heart was taken away- leaving a girl left only with a dream.

 

While in the bay, I received my Master’s degree in Marketing- a degree I dedicated mostly to plus size fashion because at this time, I wanted to open an online boutique. With my blog going full speed ahead and evolving into a small business, I ambitiously opened an online boutique- but I was only one woman and could not hold it down how it needed to be.

Fast forward to now, less than six months until I turn 30, I reflect back on the successes and failures that have helped shape me to who I am now. Through trials and tribulations, I have learned just how strong I am, driven I am, motivated I am to deliver Curvy.Confident.Chic. news to you. To be of service to you.

  • I have learned that through giving and support, this is MY greatest joy
  • I have learned that seeing the glass as halfway full can sometimes be the ONLY way to continue to grind
  • I have learned that not everyone has your best interest at heart (two EARLY life lessons on my entrepreneurial path shocked me into this reality)
  • I have learned to love myself more and stand up for what I believe in without offending or putting off others
  • I have learned that family you are born with, yet there are friends who can be closer than certain family members offering support, motivation, and inspiration to challenge you to do and be better
  • I have learned to take better care of me- both mentally and physically. Sometimes it is OKAY to step away from the computer, blog, Twitter and Facebook… Pilates Anyone?
  • I have learned to not be sooooooo hard on myself. While I am not where I ideally want to be, I am working towards that- and the key word here being working…

While I could easily have felt like this: 

Turning 30

There is no way that I could- although this image is hilarious! 

The only issue now, as I get closer to 30 is the case of celebrations. With my birthday falling on the weekend before New York Fashion Week (9/9), do I throw a party here or celebrate in NY? Or do both?

I want this cake found on Nerdalicious.com

What do I do? I guess I write this loving YOUR ideas…

And I must share one of my biggest fears:

Having a birthday party and no one shows… yes, this is my biggest fear! :)

But better yet, if you are over 30, what life lessons and revelations have you learned? If you are not 30 yet, what are your thoughts about turning 30?

 

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I am the owner of the Curvy Fashionista, sharing the latest trends and designers in plus size fashion, beauty, and accessories to keep you Curvy.Confident.Chic.! I am goofy, silly, playful, and a handful... but it is all in the name of fashion!

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  • Natalie Frey

    I totally understand how you feel! I love this blog, and esp. this post…SO REAL! Thanks for sharing your experiences. It was HARD for me when I turned 30…I guess when you hit adulthood, you imagine your life being “together” by 30…so not the case!! I’m not alone! Love it.

    xoxo, Nat

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Thank you Nat! Ha! Imagine having your life together is soooo real! I didn’t even share, maybe I will edit, but I am also at my mom’s house now… Definitely not a permanent situation! Life and its funny ways of changing your path! 
      But I gotta love it! 
      Thank you darlin! 

  • http://profiles.google.com/msmcdermott2008 M.J McDermott

    How cool is that we have the EXACT same birthday and that I will be turning 30 myself??!

    I feel everything you’re feeling about turning 30.  I actually thought my life would be all settled and mapped out by now!  I graduated college at 23 and by now I was supposed to be a hot shot attorney working for a mac daddy firm.  Um, yeah…didn’t happen that way!  I felt like a failure and was totally lost because my whole plan was ruined.

    With the help of blogging I slowly found my direction and now I honestly feel that because I’m turning 30, I’m ready, more mature, and more confident in myself and in my abilities to pursue what I was meant to do.  Everything happens for a reason and now I’m more comfortable in heading into the next decade of life!

    As for celebrating, girl do both!!  I’m trying to party from Thursday to Tuesday! Holla! :)

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Hello fellow Virgo!!!!
      So you can kind of feel my natural worrywart- ness! LOL I do share some of those revelations as you! with confidence, being myself, making myself happier- and yes everything happens for a reason! 
      Maybe I will celebrate for 2 weeks? lol 

  • Monique

    I’m only 21, so I can’t offer you any advice. LOL (I wish)

    Living life to the fullest, with an open mind is the BEST way to live in your 30′s! xoxo

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      And this I plan to do Monique! Thank you love for the reminder!!!!! (MUAH!)

  • http://twitter.com/j1_design jenice

    i am about to be 30 in one month and 8 days. I am also nervous, excited and little anxious. I could totally relate to your blog. I had my whole life planned out at 20 and as i went through each year, I saw my plan slowly disappear.

    I think you should have a bash before NY Fashion Week… you can celebrate your Bday and fashion all in one. I would love to come in join, but NC is too far from NY.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Yeahhhh!!!!!! Happy early 30th! 

      Now that your plan has disappeared, what have you learned and what did you do to redirect or continue along your journey? 

      I am leaning towards having a small one here and then having a blast in NY! I dunno! LOL 

      • http://twitter.com/j1_design jenice

         I learned that all plans need room for God. I also saw that i was soooo determined to do what I planned that i was not living my life. I now understand that to live life is to live it in the wisdom of God.

        God gives us elders and people in our life to speak wisdom into our life – we have to heed to that wisdom and enjoy the life God gave us.

        Happy early 30th to you too!!!

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1667293402 Aminata Gulliver

     I turned 30 last year and the best advise i can offer is not to focus too much on  “the adolescent dream of where you should have been by 30″. Life is so unpredictable, stay focus on your goals and just enjoy the ride. You have made it another year, what a beautiful feeling?  Celebrate yourself and your accomplishments , Family, and Friends both (Online and off)….. Happy 30th……….

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      Aminata! How kind your words are!!! Yes, this is such a beautiful thing, fun, exciting, and uncertain! I love the words: focus on your goals and enjoy the ride! 

      That I will do darlin! That I will do! Thank you soooo much!

  • http://www.doesthisfatmakemybuttlookbig.blogspot.com Like-it-is

    Turning 30 for me was weirdly liberating. I was prepared to be depressed about it but when it happened it was like a weight was lifted. I realized that a lot of the stuff I stressed over in my 20s just didn’t matter. It was a wonderful realization.
    As for celebration – I say definately celebrate in NYC. But also do something for yourself before. Something luxurious and decadent that you would never otherwise indulge in.
    Congratulations. 30 kicks ass!!!

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      You have me all excited and everything! Thank you so much darlin!!!!! 

  • Nyvia Weathersby

    Marie,

    Firslty I must say how very proud I am of you. You are like my sister and I value your courage and beauty. If this is what turning 30 looks like, I CANT WAIT! I love your spirit and all that you symbolize.

    Now- to the good stuff ;) - Have your party in LA! ( obviously)- I will show up & tons of other amazing people that you know. Ill even throw in some people you dont know ( just for kicks). Your way to popular to not have anyone show (silly girl)

    I love you, my sister.

    • http://thecurvyfashionista.mariedenee.com Marie Denee

      !!!! Your words are too kind! Thank you so much for your support- SERIOUSLY! You too are doing big things darlin!!! 

      I love too and thank you for the birthday party encouragement! 

  • tequila burns

    Having something small then celebrate big in Ny

  • http://www.considermelovely.com Rocquelle P.

    I LOVE this post!! It’s so reflective and honest. I turned 26 two weeks ago, and I thought, “oh my, I’m now closer to 30 than 20!” I must admit, I’m not sure of how I feel about it. I’m not dreading the big 3-0, like some people I know, but it does frighten me a bit. Nonetheless, I look forward to what the rest of my 20′s and on into my 30′s (and so on), have to bring and the many lessons that I am to learn!

    I think you should do both!

  • Anonymous

    30 feels so odd. You know you should feel like an adult, but you don’t feel that much older… just a bit wiser. The thirties are such a huge internal growth period. Try to look at them with excitement, because they really are great. So thrilled to have found you and your blog… can’t wait to see how even more awesome you will become in your 30s! :D

  • Sarah Silverman

    thank you for sharing a part of your life with us! what an inspirational story. i’m glad to hear you are happy and satisfied with your life. have your party in NY! it’ll be fabulous :)

  • Olette

    Turning 30 is sooooo Great!!!

  • Iheartsugarland

    I just stumbled across your blog and I know it’s a little late for this but I agree with everyone about looking forward to your big 30! I’m still a few years (2) away from 30 and I recently quit my job and moved to NYC (1 week ago today) because I wanted to shake things up a bit!  I became complacent with life and began watching everything I “planned” pass me by.  I’m turning over a new leaf and hope by my 30th I can introduce a “new” me! So l say kiss your 20s goodbye and embrace your 30s.  Also I’m not sure if you are a country music fan but Tim McGraw’s has a song “Next 30 years” which is AMAZING… you should definitely give it a listen!  Anyways happy early birthday and I hope you do it big in NYC for your birthday so I can tag along (jk)!

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